Blog for February 13th 2023
The Busyness of Love
I was thinking about writing on the obvious topic of the week- love. Being that Valentines Day is this week. Love is always in fashion, every week, every day, and I highly recommend it. It’s the reason I write this blog at all. Love is always the thread of my blogs and my life. However, this week has been about staying busy with meetings, sponsee’s, friends and appointments and Bible studies.
So more to the point, do I love staying busy, or do I love people and that keeps me busy? Either way I do what I do because I am led by God and I try to follow the path He lays out for me to the best of my ability with His help and guidance of course. I guess when I make other people who need help my primary focus and purpose then I can’t help but to do what I do with love.
This doesn’t mean I love everything I do and that every time I go to help or support others that I’m loving every minute of it. Because it’s hard to watch people I love suffering. If they are in the hospital or have to go to court or do some unpleasant thing, that doesn’t mean I’m loving it. I love them enough to want to be a support in their hour of need.
Being about the business of showing and giving love and support is the most spiritual, helpful, good thing we can do on this earth. Sharing and caring the NA way is our creed. It’s what we do, it’s our calling. All of us – all of us who are in recovery.
I don’t know about you, but I was shown love and kindness, and also tough love when I first got clean. I was offered phone numbers and help. It was amazing. I had never had such a thing happen to me before. Only in trickery, only until they got what they wanted from me.
But in this twelve-step program, it’s different. The saying here goes “we will love you until you learn you love yourself” and they did. By then, they still love you, maybe even more, because now you will be friends with these people and have made bonds that can be stronger than blood and last a lifetime.
Especially in marriage and parenting -love is about being busy. Love is an action, a verb. It’s not just a word or a feeling, it’s a doing. We “do” for our loved ones. Cook, clean, take them to doctors and hospitals. We take then to events and outings that they enjoy doing. We help them with homework and life issues. And when they need it, we help them find help as best we can. And my favorite and most used source of love for them all is prayer.
Prayer is also an action and a loving thing to do for everyone, especially those we love who are near and dear to our hearts.
Question of the Week: How busy are you showing your love?
PS: I hope you all have a blessed and happy Valentines Day and if no one else has told you this Valentine’s Day that they love, I love you!
