Blog for June 23rd 2025
A Marriage of Recovery
Happy Fortieth anniversary to us! Wow Whee, I can’t believe it. Who would have ever thought it? Back in 1981-1985 No one! We were still using then; we spent our last four years of using together. Those were crazy times. So, we may have just celebrated Forty years married, but we’ve been together for forty four years. It is nothing short of a miracle that we both got clean, that we stayed together, that we found recovery.
You don’t go forty years doing anything without a lot of ups and downs. Without a lot of loss and gain, without a lot of trials and errors. We’ve certainly had our share of defeat and victory. So many experiences of so many kinds and through it all, we’ve had each other, always. I sometimes call us the “push-me/pull-me” critter, like from Dr. Dolittle. Lol. When I needed a push or a pull he was there, when he needed a push or a pull, I was there. That’s amazing to me how God seemed to always make sure that we weren’t both sick and crazy on the same day!
If you were to ask me how we did it, my answer is simple. God, NA and humor. My husband has so many qualities that I admire, in fact in the beginning, I was in awe of him. His calm, mature, badass, smooth nature. Hard to describe, but I certainly learned a lot from him. I would think, “wow, I want to be like him”. Just the way he’d stick to a project or chore until it was completed blew my mind. I was more of a do dozen things all at once kind of gal, and therefore, nothing really got done quite right. He taught me to slow down, take my time, think it through and see it to the end. To me, it was revolutionary.
He also helped me to learn to settle down and bite my tongue in times of aggravation with others. And we both helped each other with the understanding and raising of our children. We also helped each other with our aging parents, siblings, and other relatives. It seemed to me that we were both in alignment with working our programs. We both have been of service to NA, church and have tried to give back to the fellowship and God as best we could. Yet, we each went our own way. He worked his program, and I worked mine.
He was a little bit county, and I am a little bit rock & roll. He likes to fish, I liked to hike. He likes to read and I like to write. He is amazing, true, real, honest and brave. I could go on, but I think you get the picture. I am madly in love with my husband, still. I believe God truly has had His hand in our marriage, in our lives, certainly in our recovery. And for that, I will be forever grateful.
Thank you Lord for you and for my love. Amen.
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