Blog for May 4th, 2026
Contrary People and why they do not matter anymore.
I gotta tell ya, I had a hard time thinking of a title for this one, until it dawned on me, it really doesn’t matter anymore. So, what doesn’t matter anymore? Well, here’s the thing, I’ve been around some people lately who I do not particularly care for. Their motives and their ways seem contrary to my way of thinking and being. And I mean, that’s fine, I don’t care how they want to proceed in their own life, nor do I care if their ways are self-serving, rude or sneaky. They will have to answer to God, not me.
I personally cannot afford to be friends with those kinds of people; they could rub off on me. Then, heaven forbid, I’d be at odds with my God. Now, maybe, just maybe I’m the one who has it all wrong about who is and who isn’t living in God’s will, try as I may, I know I do not always stay in His will. I pray for God’s will in my life and I seek it out. I also know and trust that the Holy Spirit living in me gives me nudges, guidance, direction, warnings and shows me the truth of a matter. Such as, someone’s true nature and hidden motives.
Yesterday I was around a couple of people who I take issue with. But not to the point of being rude to them, or to the point that I will leave somewhere that I want to be just because they are there. In fact, I believe that the Lord has seen to it that I am quite comfortable in those situations. Even though I prefer not to be around them, their presence – for the short time I’m around them- does not bother me at all. For me, that is God working in my life. It’s like I was telling a sponsee the other day, God “cloaks” me. Or is it them? Lol.
This could be due to old age or years of recovery or both, but I just don’t care anymore. Even if it’s family, which is super rare, I feel as though I am covered and protected from any kind of harm from them. Physical, spiritual or mental. They just do not bother me, because I know that Gods got me! If they have sneering looks, back-handed comments, ignoring me, or just plain rude, it really doesn’t bother me, not like it would have years ago.
I mean, some of the B.S. they do and say makes me shake my head and roll my eyes and I think “what’s wrong with you? Why do you have to be like that? They can be so catty, domineering, manipulative or sinister”. That’s when I get so grateful for my God, my salvation and my recovery- especially the twelve steps. Which has helped me to navigate through life. A life that is full of greedy and self-centered people, people that show me what I do not want to be like.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think for one minute that everyone is like that, but some are and when the Holy Spirit points them out to me, it’s time to stay clear of those people. I can be in the same room for a while with them, but I do not engage in conversations or ideas with them. I let sleeping dogs lie as they say. I’m not mean or rude, but I do not engage people who are contrary to my spirit. That does not mean I don’t love on the newcomer or sick and hurting people, because I do, I believe that is some of God’s will for me. To show His love to everyone. Inasmuch as it’s possible for me to do so and be safe around them. The Lord will protect me.
Since I have come to this realization of not letting these contrary people bother me, I stay away from them as much as possible. Consequently, I have had a lot more fun at some of the gatherings I’ve attended. Not feeling hostility is a gift! Thank you Lord. I feel some real freedom with this new attitude. Because of it, I’ve become a kinder, gentler person, yay! Growth, eh?
Question of the Week: Do you let other people bother you?
That’s pretty contrary alright!